“When A Queen Knows Her Worth”
Have you ever been in a relationship, friendship, situation where you felt like you were being taken advantage of? Saying yes when you really meant no? Giving away pieces of you to undeserving individuals?
So if you ladies haven’t noticed we are all about transparency. We share with you our testimonies and stories to show to you how great our God is. When you keep it real you are able to reach those who may think that God is a figment of their imagination. It’s always better to make things applicable. So today I want to share a story with you…
So just last week I received a text from an old flame that I hadn’t spoken to in months. He texted me to let me know how proud he was of me and to never forget that he knew me before PA school. Last month my ex text me to let me know how proud he was of me and how he always knew that I could do it. How he made the sacrifice of letting me go so that I could succeed...blah blah blah. Don’t get me wrong...I was touched...but not moved. Actually I was slightly irritated. The Imani of last year would have melted like butter, found deeper meaning in those texts and tried to spark the fire that God intentionally put out. I would have missed what all this was really about...that they see what I’m “worth” but so do I. You see they like my resume now with soon to be physician assistant. They can see themselves being with a woman like that...but only now since they didn’t have to be apart of the hard word and tears that were shed. They see the earthly change but not my spiritual growth. They are stuck on my earthly identity. See during these past 2.5 yrs God has not only been carrying me through school, but he has been working overtime in me. Changing me from the person I once was into the person that I am now. He has had me on my knees crying out to him, wanting more of him….and he did just that. I’m no longer the same Imani that they knew 2 years ago… I’ve realized what I’m worth and they can’t afford me.
During my time of spiritual growth I began to stop caring about what people thought of me and turned my focus on God. I stopped searching for my Boaz and made the decision to let God bring him to me. I stopped accepting mediocrity because I come from royalty. I stopped looking for a man to make me happy because I found what makes me happy...I found the ultimate joy in Christ. Not knowing my worth led me to many failed relationships, unfulfilling one night stands, and some ungodly decisions that came with major consequences. Not knowing my worth led me to give away my heart to men who didn’t know what to do with it...which in turn led to heartbreak and bitterness.
But after many tearful nights (and I mean many) of questioning God I finally shut up to receive his answer… “For you formed my inward parts. You covered me in my mothers womb. I will praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are your works.” Psalm 139:13-14. Shoot...once I realized that, couldn’t no one tell me otherwise. And it shows. My light is shining so bright that those in my past want to try and take credit for it and creep back in after all the hard work is done. Naw homie...you’re not welcome here.
So I say all this to say: to my Queens it is time to know your worth. Know that God didn’t create you to be someone else’s punching bag, doormat, trophy wife, side chick, bad b, thot, hoe, or whatever other colloquialism that someone may try and say is a term of endearment...because you are NONE OF THE ABOVE! “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight” 1 Peter 3:3.
And Queens why should we trust God and not man? “For the Lord God is our sun and shield. He gives grace and glory. The Lord will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right” “Psalms 84:11
For anyone who thinks they made you, thank them for being that thorn in your side that pushed you closer to God. That was their purpose in your life at that time.
Jerica
Here is a quote that I saw on pinterest that is fitting: “I am the daughter of a king who is not moved by the world, for my God is with me and goes before me. I do no fear because I AM HIS!
What happens when you REALLY know your worth? You begin to…
Know who and who’s you are (you come from royalty, you are a daughter of the Most High).
Develop a deeper intimacy with God (God is not a one night stand. You can’t just use him and then not call him the next day. Make time for God because he always has time for you)
Recognize your inward and outward beauty
Encourage yourself. Its ok to encourage yourself! As much as we encourage others, we have to practice on ourselves. From saying one good thing (out loud), such as “I can make it”, “One day at a time” or “Everything wil be ok”, it doesnt hurt to say something to make your outlook on life better.
Encourage other Queens. Romans 12:8 says if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.
Let go of nonsense. When we know our worth, we don’t take things so personal. Everyone is not out to get you, and its not a big deal. Unless they are trying to take something major from you, we have to let it go.
Start walking in God’s truth. “Blessed is she who believed that the Lord will fulfill his promises to her” Luke 1:45
Know when someone is telling the truth vs. fluff. Alot of times we try to read into texts, words people say to us. Sometimes we need to take things at face value. We know when someone is just pulling on our heartstrings with words, but dont really mean what they say. When we know our worth, we wont turn those messages, nice words we get, into a dream, fairy tale land. And most of the time, we have heard it all before.
Jeremiah 29:11-12
